Have you wonder?

Hey guys,

Quick question.

Have you wonder why people go through so many relationships without finding the right person? Inside you go on and on browsing through the human library, sometimes being a little choosy for 'the one'. I mean, is there really such thing called 'the one'?

Well, to some there is.. Differently for many people I suppose, I for one believe that 'the one' is the person who can make me feel what I need to feel at the right moment (confident, happy, excited, loved) and be understanding when I do things that are out of emotion (being angry, getting all psyched, sad). But the mistake most people do is that they expect to get the perfect person they've always imagined, without so much as an effort to be the best person for their partner.

Us being silly hahaha..

In my current relationship (which I hope will be my last), I'm constantly prioritizing him instead of me. What most people do is start an attention hoping to always get prioritized instead, but if he really loves you too he would prioritize you without you needing to ask for it. Of course giving in all the time is not fun, but if you found 'the one' you don't have to worry because he'll be just as willing to give in for you.

To make things simple:

If you want to be spoiled, spoil him.

If you want to feel happy, make him happy.

If you want to be loved, love him with all your heart.

I've heard someone's story before, she said her first marriage ended up in a divorce because she often said 'no' to her husband. But then she stopped saying 'no' in her second marriage and it ended up happy. I personally couldn't agree with that.

Love means you have to sacrifice, but of course it goes both ways. Could you imagine a scenario where you feel so tired after a day's work and your boyfriend/husband asked you out and you just feel like resting in bed? Of course I wouldn't say no, I would prefer answering "I'm sorry babe, I've been working my ass off today and I just feel so exhausted. Do you mind if we go out another day?".

I'm sure if he loves you, he'll understand. If not, then he may not be 'the one' and it's better off if you find another guy.

Actually the most important thing in a healthy relationship is understanding, patience and trust. Love is in every one of those, and if you can cherish them then this relationship will be the best thing that has ever happened in your life.

I'm so glad I found mine. ♥

My dear babe and me ♥

What may seem to be a long time..

Today is my 3 monthiversary with Ronaldo Bennedictus!

At Ah Mei Cafe with Ronald and his family ♥

And my absence in this blog must be blamed on my tight schedule full of work and of course spending time with my precious loved one. I really miss typing out what's inside of my head, just to keep a clear mind. So here it goes..

Last month I bought another return ticket to Bali scheduled for 31st July - 5th August 2013 together with Ronald, and the reason we bought the ticket right before the peak season is..

My sister is getting married!! In Bali!!

My sister, Ingrid and her future husband Ferry.

Well she met her boyfriend when she started working in Bali, she knew him for quite sometime before that but only met him when she moved to Bali. Then somehow they got together and he proposed less than a year in the relationship! (I assume..)

Thinking of stuff like this always reminds me of my relationship with Ronald, unlike any other relationships I have experienced before. Like how we've known each other and met almost 4 years ago, and in the end things brought us together after almost 4 years of immutable feelings. Although everything seems like a dream come true, I don't deny the fact that there are many tough roads that lies ahead of us. But I'm sure we'll make it through, whatever it takes us to make it to the end together..

Anyways, this year I motivated myself with my new lifestyle and dropped 7 kg of weight! People have been complimenting on how I look much slimmer, but I don't intend to stop my diet. Still I eat only once a day (but a huge meal is required), and only snack some other time of the day unless for special occasion of my favorite food at home, dining out at a favorite restaurant, being treated to a known delicacy or something new that seems exciting, etc.

Being a tall girl with big bone structures, I have to adjust my body weight proportionally. Ronald mentioned too that I don't look good being too thin, although I still wanted to trim down another 3 kg. I have stopped altogether my gym activities, including yoga which I can't seem to find the time to practice myself at home. Retiring the membership from Gold's Gym has proved that I could save more money without going to the gym, and still lose more weight.

My old clothes didn't seem to fit me anymore, my jeans were too loose.. Even with a belt on, my old jeans just gave up on me. Clothes that seem too small for me were now starting to fit perfectly on my body, and wearing tight jeans doesn't make my calves look big anymore. This is where I should start to reorganize my wardrobe, getting rid of old clothes and buying new ones.

I got myself a black Hana bag (Rp 384.000) at STAR Department Store, Mal Kelapa Gading. No Fear black silicone belt (Rp 68.000) from Planet Surf, Mal Taman Anggrek. Connexion black jeans at Matahari, Mal Artha Gading. And a Crocs Duet Flats Women - Khaki (Rp 175.000) that I bought online.

I also got a haircut at Hasami Kushi, Mal Artha Gading with Deaz and straighten my hair at a salon near Ebong's house.